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    The truth, unfortunately, lies somewhere in between, and it is necessary to deal with this “shades-of-gray” complexity if one is to be successful in life and love.

    Henry and Yvonne both felt very high romantic chemistry at the start, but once infatuation wore off her true level fell to “high,” while his remained “very high.” If h

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    Henry and Yvonne (not their real names) met online. After a few email conversations they got together for coffee. They hit it off and were soon dating. According to Henry, they were head-over-heels in love, and after six months they got engaged. Then things started to unravel, and Yvonne seemed to grow more distant. Henry wanted to make things better, Yvonne wasn’t sure. However, the thought of breaking up with Henry filled her with dread. Henry had always treated her well, though sometimes it seemed like he wanted more than she could give.

    After a year they broke up, but in a month they were talking again. He wanted to feel love like it had been before, and she didn’t want to lose the best thing she’d ever had. But still she wasn’t sure. One could say that this problem was due to infatuation wearing off, denial and guilt pushing her into accepting the engagement, and then loneliness bringing them back together after the breakup. However, this assessment is based on one significant false premise. It assumes that “in-love” and “not-in-love” are black and white concepts, and it assumes that infatuation, if it fades, becomes ”not-in-love.”

    The truth, unfortunately, lies somewhere in between, and it is necessary to deal with this “shades-of-gray” complexity if one is to be successful in life and love.

    Henry and Yvonne both felt very high romantic chemistry at the start, but once infatuation wore off her true level fell to “high,” while his remained “very high.” If he

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    f and were soon dating. According to Henry, they were head-over-heels in love, and after six months they got engaged. Then things started to unravel, and Yvonne seemed to grow more distant. Henry wanted to make things better, Yvonne wasn’t sure. However, the thought of breaking up with Henry filled her with dread. Henry had always treated her well, though sometimes it seemed like he wanted more than she could give.

    After a year they broke up, but in a month they were talking again. He wanted to feel love like it had been before, and she didn’t want to lose the best thing she’d ever had. But still she wasn’t sure. One could say that this problem was due to infatuation wearing off, denial and guilt pushing her into accepting the engagement, and then loneliness bringing them back together after the breakup. However, this assessment is based on one significant false premise. It assumes that “in-love” and “not-in-love” are black and white concepts, and it assumes that infatuation, if it fades, becomes ”not-in-love.”

    The truth, unfortunately, lies somewhere in between, and it is necessary to deal with this “shades-of-gray” complexity if one is to be successful in life and love.

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    er well, though sometimes it seemed like he wanted more than she could give.

    After a year they broke up, but in a month they were talking again. He wanted to feel love like it had been before, and she didn’t want to lose the best thing she’d ever had. But still she wasn’t sure. One could say that this problem was due to infatuation wearing off, denial and guilt pushing her into accepting the engagement, and then loneliness bringing them back together after the breakup. However, this assessment is based on one significant false premise. It assumes that “in-love” and “not-in-love” are black and white concepts, and it assumes that infatuation, if it fades, becomes ”not-in-love.”

    The truth, unfortunately, lies somewhere in between, and it is necessary to deal with this “shades-of-gray” complexity if one is to be successful in life and love.

    Henry and Yvonne both felt very high romantic chemistry at the start, but once infatuation wore off her true level fell to “high,” while his remained “very high.” If h

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    ing off, denial and guilt pushing her into accepting the engagement, and then loneliness bringing them back together after the breakup. However, this assessment is based on one significant false premise. It assumes that “in-love” and “not-in-love” are black and white concepts, and it assumes that infatuation, if it fades, becomes ”not-in-love.”

    The truth, unfortunately, lies somewhere in between, and it is necessary to deal with this “shades-of-gray” complexity if one is to be successful in life and love.

    Henry and Yvonne both felt very high romantic chemistry at the start, but once infatuation wore off her true level fell to “high,” while his remained “very high.” If h

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    The truth, unfortunately, lies somewhere in between, and it is necessary to deal with this “shades-of-gray” complexity if one is to be successful in life and love.

    Henry and Yvonne both felt very high romantic chemistry at the start, but once infatuation wore off her true level fell to “high,” while his remained “very high.” If her feelings of romantic chemistry had fallen to “medium” or less, then one could say that she had fallen out of love. But in fact her chemistry remains “high” (though not as high as Henry’s). This causes her to feel ambivalent. Maybe she can find someone where the chemistry is stronger, but maybe she can’t, at least not in someone who treats her as well as Henry does. So she is stuck. She doesn’t know whether to proceed with him or not. She doesn’t want to give him false hope, but she doesn’t want to lose him either. She doesn’t know what to do. This drives him crazy, and he also doesn’t know what to do. Her ambivalence fuels his insecurity which in turn causes him to work harder at the relationship which in turn causes her to feel more confined and more like leaving. It is a vicious circle.

    This, or a variation of it, seems to occur all the time, hence the title of this article “The Prevalence of Ambivalence.”

    So what’s the solution? First there must be enough emotional maturity to be able to recognize the problem and constructively work on it. In this example Henry’s emotional maturity was a little higher than Yvonne’s, and enough to try to get a grip on the situation.

    The partner who feels higher chemistry (Henry) must patiently allow time for the ambivalent partner (Yvonne) to sort out her life goals and decide how (or if) this relat

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