We need to ask ourselves a few things:

1. Do these negative emotions (jealousy, resentment, anger, bitterness, greed, envy, etc.) fix anything, or create any positive outcomes?

2. By me getting myself into a negative state, who is most likely to suffer?

3. Am I (really) honest with myself or am I happy to blame anything and anyone for my problems and circumstances?

4.

Clearly, not happy.

You generally don't expect too much entertainment sitting in traffic, but it's fair to say that they were providing quite the distraction for everyone within a two hundred metre radius.

I was about five cars away and I could hear every word. None of which I would share with Grandma Harper. Next set of lights I pulled up beside them and glanced in their direction (couldn't help myself). Big mistake. At the same time, the woman (a little charmer) turned away from her bloke, realised I was looking (how dare I), and screamed at me:

What are the f... are you looking at?

I felt like saying "you two dickheads creating a scene", but realising she could probably kick the crap out of me, I opted for the girlie option and said nothing.

Embarrassing I know.

Have you ever watched an argument from a distance?

Two people screaming, nobody listening, tension, frustration, spit, tears, elevated blood pressure, increased heart rate, cardio vascular stress, production of potentially harmful hormones (adrenalin, cortisol), not to mention the social, emotional and psychological discomfort two angry, insensitive, stupid idiots can create for everyone (kids, friends, work colleagues, strangers) within ear-shot.

Some of us regularly live in a negative and destructive emotional state.

Not you or I, of course, but possibly someone we know. Well.

We whine, we complain, we blame, we judge, we criticise, we resent, we envy and generally we're unpleasant to be around (periodically at least).

We get ourselves into an unproductive, destructive, negative state and we 'create' new problems.

We need to ask ourselves a few things:

1. Do these negative emotions (jealousy, resentment, anger, bitterness, greed, envy, etc.) fix anything, or create any positive outcomes?

2. By me getting myself into a negative state, who is most likely to suffer?

3. Am I (really) honest with myself or am I happy to blame anything and anyone for my problems and circumstances?

4.

What are the f... are you looking at?

I felt like saying "you two dickheads creating a scene", but realising she could probably kick the crap out of me, I opted for the girlie option and said nothing.

Embarrassing I know.

Have you ever watched an argument from a distance?

Two people screaming, nobody listening, tension, frustration, spit, tears, elevated blood pressure, increased heart rate, cardio vascular stress, production of potentially harmful hormones (adrenalin, cortisol), not to mention the social, emotional and psychological discomfort two angry, insensitive, stupid idiots can create for everyone (kids, friends, work colleagues, strangers) within ear-shot.

Some of us regularly live in a negative and destructive emotional state.

Not you or I, of course, but possibly someone we know. Well.

We whine, we complain, we blame, we judge, we criticise, we resent, we envy and generally we're unpleasant to be around (periodically at least).

We get ourselves into an unproductive, destructive, negative state and we 'create' new problems.

We need to ask ourselves a few things:

1. Do these negative emotions (jealousy, resentment, anger, bitterness, greed, envy, etc.) fix anything, or create any positive outcomes?

2. By me getting myself into a negative state, who is most likely to suffer?

3. Am I (really) honest with myself or am I happy to blame anything and anyone for my problems and circumstances?

4.

Embarrassing I know.

Have you ever watched an argument from a distance?

Two people screaming, nobody listening, tension, frustration, spit, tears, elevated blood pressure, increased heart rate, cardio vascular stress, production of potentially harmful hormones (adrenalin, cortisol), not to mention the social, emotional and psychological discomfort two angry, insensitive, stupid idiots can create for everyone (kids, friends, work colleagues, strangers) within ear-shot.

Some of us regularly live in a negative and destructive emotional state.

Not you or I, of course, but possibly someone we know. Well.

We whine, we complain, we blame, we judge, we criticise, we resent, we envy and generally we're unpleasant to be around (periodically at least).

We get ourselves into an unproductive, destructive, negative state and we 'create' new problems.

We need to ask ourselves a few things:

1. Do these negative emotions (jealousy, resentment, anger, bitterness, greed, envy, etc.) fix anything, or create any positive outcomes?

2. By me getting myself into a negative state, who is most likely to suffer?

3. Am I (really) honest with myself or am I happy to blame anything and anyone for my problems and circumstances?

4.

Some of us regularly live in a negative and destructive emotional state.

Not you or I, of course, but possibly someone we know. Well.

We whine, we complain, we blame, we judge, we criticise, we resent, we envy and generally we're unpleasant to be around (periodically at least).

We get ourselves into an unproductive, destructive, negative state and we 'create' new problems.

We need to ask ourselves a few things:

1. Do these negative emotions (jealousy, resentment, anger, bitterness, greed, envy, etc.) fix anything, or create any positive outcomes?

2. By me getting myself into a negative state, who is most likely to suffer?

3. Am I (really) honest with myself or am I happy to blame anything and anyone for my problems and circumstances?

4.

We need to ask ourselves a few things:

1. Do these negative emotions (jealousy, resentment, anger, bitterness, greed, envy, etc.) fix anything, or create any positive outcomes?

2. By me getting myself into a negative state, who is most likely to suffer?

3. Am I (really) honest with myself or am I happy to blame anything and anyone for my problems and circumstances?

4. Do I really want my life / situation / body / relationships to change for the better... or do I like to revel in my own misery? Do I really want to change things, or do I want someone else to fix it?

We rarely think it's us. We always think we're right, they're wrong and they just don't get it.

Or get us.

We keep looking for the person who will 'get' us.

But at the same time, we spend our entire life not listening, not understanding, not empathising and not trying to 'get' others.

Sometimes the simple act of listening to someone, rather than talking at them will fix things.

Chat with someone who's having problems with a partner, friend or work colleague; you're never gonna hear: "you know what, I've been a real pain in the arse lately; I never listen, I'm inconsiderate and I only ever see things from my point of view. I really think I need to apologise and change." "And by the way; she's fantastic and I really appreciate her."

Ain't gonna happen. But it should.

The truth is; it's always us. At least a bit. No matter how right we think we are, understand this... it's always about us. In some way, on some level.

Even if someone is difficult, we still contribute.

I often tell people (who are giving me their version of the truth) that I believe they are the problem; even if they are my friends. Just because I care about someone, doesn't mean they're always right.

Keep this in mind: you might be the greatest person, with the best motives and the nicest nature... and still offend, hurt and insult those around you (without ever intending to, or without even being aware).

I know, I've been offending people for years! ...don't mean to, but still do it. Even with a post like this, someone will