d on one side, while all other groups (the so-called diverse people) stand on the other side. They appear isolated with the "others" pointing, taunting, and blaming them, the white male, for all their problems.

And, not surprisingly, white men are feeling this isolation as never before. They feel blamed. They feel distrusted. They feel unable to voice their concerns. Think about it. If a white male starts talking about feeling discriminated against, belittled, or

A recent movie starring Richard Dreyfus and Bill Murray tells the story of a man desperately trying to be included as a member of his psychiatrist's family. Whenever the doctor attempted to exclude him, his family would respond by asking, "What about Bob?"

In the midst of all the work relating to diversity in the workplace, one group often gets excluded. When affirmative action categories are closely examined, we find that nearly everyone is covered in some way except this group. In discussions of equity, this group is excluded. As we struggle with ways to break through the glass ceiling, they are the ones on the other side. In our quest to value differences, we often fail to account for and honor their differences. I speak of course of the non-immigrant, non-Hispanic, able-bodied, heterosexual, white male. (Isn't it interesting that I had to list so many qualifiers to adequately identify them?) This group is often seen as "they" as "we" attempt to get more access and power in organizations. As a black management consultant, I am constantly confronted by white males who feel that they are being attacked and maligned in today=s workplace.

White men are even given a special phrase when they are not respected, or are overlooked. It is called reverse discrimination, (a term which I use guardedly for this discussion and refuse to use in general conversation). I believe that discrimination is discrimination, no matter who is the target. If a person of color is ignored, overlooked, dismissed, disrespected, or mistreated because of color, that's discrimination.

If a woman, disabled person, gay or lesbian person, is treated badly because of their group identification, that's discrimination. The practice of applying the term reverse discrimination when speaking of white men implies that they are the sole perpetrators of discrimination against all the other groups. It is as though they stand united and single-minded on one side, while all other groups (the so-called diverse people) stand on the other side. They appear isolated with the "others" pointing, taunting, and blaming them, the white male, for all their problems.

And, not surprisingly, white men are feeling this isolation as never before. They feel blamed. They feel distrusted. They feel unable to voice their concerns. Think about it. If a white male starts talking about feeling discriminated against, belittled, or

In discussions of equity, this group is excluded. As we struggle with ways to break through the glass ceiling, they are the ones on the other side. In our quest to value differences, we often fail to account for and honor their differences. I speak of course of the non-immigrant, non-Hispanic, able-bodied, heterosexual, white male. (Isn't it interesting that I had to list so many qualifiers to adequately identify them?) This group is often seen as "they" as "we" attempt to get more access and power in organizations. As a black management consultant, I am constantly confronted by white males who feel that they are being attacked and maligned in today=s workplace.

White men are even given a special phrase when they are not respected, or are overlooked. It is called reverse discrimination, (a term which I use guardedly for this discussion and refuse to use in general conversation). I believe that discrimination is discrimination, no matter who is the target. If a person of color is ignored, overlooked, dismissed, disrespected, or mistreated because of color, that's discrimination.

If a woman, disabled person, gay or lesbian person, is treated badly because of their group identification, that's discrimination. The practice of applying the term reverse discrimination when speaking of white men implies that they are the sole perpetrators of discrimination against all the other groups. It is as though they stand united and single-minded on one side, while all other groups (the so-called diverse people) stand on the other side. They appear isolated with the "others" pointing, taunting, and blaming them, the white male, for all their problems.

And, not surprisingly, white men are feeling this isolation as never before. They feel blamed. They feel distrusted. They feel unable to voice their concerns. Think about it. If a white male starts talking about feeling discriminated against, belittled, or

t more access and power in organizations. As a black management consultant, I am constantly confronted by white males who feel that they are being attacked and maligned in today=s workplace.

White men are even given a special phrase when they are not respected, or are overlooked. It is called reverse discrimination, (a term which I use guardedly for this discussion and refuse to use in general conversation). I believe that discrimination is discrimination, no matter who is the target. If a person of color is ignored, overlooked, dismissed, disrespected, or mistreated because of color, that's discrimination.

If a woman, disabled person, gay or lesbian person, is treated badly because of their group identification, that's discrimination. The practice of applying the term reverse discrimination when speaking of white men implies that they are the sole perpetrators of discrimination against all the other groups. It is as though they stand united and single-minded on one side, while all other groups (the so-called diverse people) stand on the other side. They appear isolated with the "others" pointing, taunting, and blaming them, the white male, for all their problems.

And, not surprisingly, white men are feeling this isolation as never before. They feel blamed. They feel distrusted. They feel unable to voice their concerns. Think about it. If a white male starts talking about feeling discriminated against, belittled, or

the target. If a person of color is ignored, overlooked, dismissed, disrespected, or mistreated because of color, that's discrimination.

If a woman, disabled person, gay or lesbian person, is treated badly because of their group identification, that's discrimination. The practice of applying the term reverse discrimination when speaking of white men implies that they are the sole perpetrators of discrimination against all the other groups. It is as though they stand united and single-minded on one side, while all other groups (the so-called diverse people) stand on the other side. They appear isolated with the "others" pointing, taunting, and blaming them, the white male, for all their problems.

And, not surprisingly, white men are feeling this isolation as never before. They feel blamed. They feel distrusted. They feel unable to voice their concerns. Think about it. If a white male starts talking about feeling discriminated against, belittled, or

d on one side, while all other groups (the so-called diverse people) stand on the other side. They appear isolated with the "others" pointing, taunting, and blaming them, the white male, for all their problems.

And, not surprisingly, white men are feeling this isolation as never before. They feel blamed. They feel distrusted. They feel unable to voice their concerns. Think about it. If a white male starts talking about feeling discriminated against, belittled, or held back, he would be challenged and chastised by many people--and he knows it. After all, the conventional argument says that white men have 95% of the positions of power. They are the benefactors of privilege by virtue of their alikeness and affinity with the keepers of power, and they consistently perpetuate their kind in developing and selecting the next wave of power people.

So, more often than not, they choose to remain silent, preferring not to expose their fears, their concerns, their individual thoughts, for fear of reprisal. Meanwhile they are often forced to hear, acknowledge, and even validate the fears, concerns, and thoughts of all other groups.

In most of our diversity awareness training, people are invited to share their (honest) thinking with each other. This exercise is often cathartic; people realize how much they have in common (basic needs and desires), and, conversely, they realize that all people have different life experiences that cause them to see others as they do. The point of this "listening with respect" experience is not to seek agreement, but to seek understanding. And, it is important that all points of view be heard, acknowledged, and respected without judgment.

This exercise is usually successful in getting participation from all groups except white men, for the reasons described above. It becomes necessary, therefore, to give a special invitation to white men by first showing empathy for their position and making it OK for them to say how they feel. As a result, valuable learning is not lost. People who have held a one-sided view of white men get an opportunity to see a more complete picture and to discover ways to appreciate and work more effectively with members of this group.

The core message and the strength of the diversity movement is inclusiveness. Inclusiveness cannot be redefined to exclude one group. In fact, failure to deliberately include white men in t